“Others can make you a target, only you can choose to be a victim.”

Gavin de Becker

In your life you will encounter people who will make you a target. A target of violence, hatred, injustice, discrimination, bullying and abuse. Sometimes it seems like it is the universe targeting you with injuries, illness and disease. Sometime it feels like the financial markets or housing markets are targeting you when your financial portfolio or house value take a huge hit. Sometimes Mother Nature targets you with hurricanes, tornadoes, floods or fires. 

While being a target is not something you choose, you do get to choose whether or not you are a victim. Being a victim is a mindset. When you choose to be a victim you remain stuck. You get caught up in the blame game. You give power to the person(s) or circumstances who targeted you and you allow them to continue to control you and your life.

When you choose not to play the victim you set yourself free to move forward, to live, to grow and to continue moving forward. When you choose not to play the victim you take back your power, your control and your life. You set yourself free from the person and the act.

Is this easy? No. It takes work and it take conscious effort.

Is it worth the work? Absolutely.

Some of you reading this right now are thinking, “Brian, you don’t understand. In my situation I am the victim.” While I may not understand all the specifics of your situation, I do understand you have a choice and as long as you hang on to being a victim, that is your choice and you will remain stuck.

There are countless people who have been targets of torture, rape, extreme violence, racism, discrimination, bullying, abuse and other atrocities who have chosen not to be a victim. People have lost their love ones, their pets, their homes and all their possessions to acts of nature. They have lost all their investment and savings and had their home foreclosed on and their car repossessed. Despite all that, they have learned from their experience, grown from their experience and moved forward in their lives. The key for all of them was when they realized they had a choice and they chose not to be, or to no longer be a victim. If they can make this choice, so can you.

What’s Important Now? Being a target is part of life. Being a victim in a choice.

P.S. If you are looking for more inspiration check out this Impact Theory interview with Devon Still: https://impacttheory.com/episode/devon-still/

Take care.

Brian Willis

www.lifesmostpowerfulquestion.com

www.winningmindtraining.com

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