“Waste no more time talking about what a good man is like. Be one.”

Marcus Aurelius

There always seems to be a lot of talk about what a good man, a good woman, a good leader, a good teammate, a good parent, a good neighbor, a good teacher, or a good friend should be. That talk, like so much in today’s society, is other focused. 

The problem with being other focused from an improvement standpoint is that it keeps us from looking inward and practicing the two disciplines Coach Raveling talked about, “Self Leadership and Self Discipline.”

“Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound.”

James Allen

It is only when we are willing to change ourselves that we can get unstuck and move forward. This requires that we stop talking about what a “good __________” is, and strive to Be One. 

Doing so requires curiosity, humility, vulnerability, courage and a growth mindset. It also requires the acceptance that this is a journey and not a destination. The moment you believe you have arrived you will stop doing the work and your slide towards mediocrity will begin. 

The circumstances will likely not change. What will change is how you perceive those circumstances, whether they serve as an obstacle or an opportunity for growth. What will change are the stories you tell yourself about those circumstances and whether you see yourself as the victim or the victor in those stories. 

This will likely require that you spend less time on social media, and more time doing the work. This means less time commenting on other people’s posts and more time reading, learning, applying what you are learning, getting feedback, assessing the feedback, refining your efforts and continually repeating that process. 

P.S. Be sure to make time for physical activity, healthy eating, meditation, sleep and maybe even some good red wine. 

What’s Important Now? Continually strive to “Be One”.

Take care.

Brian Willis

www.lifesmostpowerfulquestion.com

www.winningmindtraining.com

Maximizing human potential through Life's Most Powerful Question - What's Important Now?

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